"The Inner World of an Introvert: Struggles, Strengths, and Self-Growth"

How Does an Introvert Be?

Hey Readers,

My name is Yuvraj, and I’m an introvert—just like many of you reading this. Over time, I’ve been working on myself and learning new things. Being an introvert comes with its strengths, but it also has its challenges.

There are two kinds of introverts:

1. Those who prefer spending time alone.

2. Those who stay silent even in a group.

I fall into the first category. I’m not someone who enjoys sitting in a group; I prefer being alone, watching movies or anime, and living in my own quiet world. Honestly, I like that version of myself—where I live in solitude and feel peaceful. But that lifestyle also has its downsides.

When we don’t spend enough time interacting with people, we start to believe that our version of reality is the only one. Then, when setbacks happen, we realize we missed out on many things—things that now feel new and uncomfortable to face.

Sometimes, people judge us for how we talk. That’s often due to a lack of confidence, which comes from talking mostly to ourselves. We start thinking the world is a certain way, but reality is often very different. And when we fail to understand people or communicate properly, we get frustrated.

When we finally do talk to someone, there’s a whole storm of thoughts in our mind—we’re constantly learning, observing, and analyzing. But to others, we might appear as failures. They might question how we speak, what we say, or whether we even understand the meaning of what we’re trying to communicate.

Introverts tend to overthink—especially about negative experiences. If something bad happened in the past, we might keep thinking about it. Psychology says that when we repeatedly tell ourselves something, we start believing it—even if it’s not true. It creates a false loop. Sometimes we say things that seem normal to us, but others see them as odd or even stupid. That’s because we’re used to our own thoughts and rarely get outside perspectives.

There are many such experiences. But let’s talk about how an introvert should be. Here are some thoughts:

1. Introverts Should Be Highly Strategic

Since we tend to overthink and keep our thoughts to ourselves, we can analyze different possibilities and see through situations with depth. That’s a superpower—use it.

2. Promote Yourself Through Work and Words

If you’re a working professional, remember: people only know what you show. If you stay silent, others won’t know your capabilities. I remember during my internship, one of my friends was more introverted than me. He was actually better at the job, but I was a bit more vocal. As a result, I got the opportunities that involved interaction, while he got back-end tasks.

3. Conserve Energy for Important Moments

Big events and social situations can be exhausting. Save your energy for when it matters. Focus on your breathing techniques to feel energized and centered.

4. Don’t Be Afraid to Fail

We live in a world that fears failure—but failing is a part of growth. The sooner we accept that, the stronger we become.

5. Change Takes Time

If you've been a certain way for years, you can’t expect to change overnight. Be patient with yourself. For example, I struggled to explain myself to others and even to my family. But over time, I learned.

6. Do One Thing at a Time

Multitasking doesn’t work well for everyone. Focus on one thing, do it well, and then move to the next.

7. Don’t Let the Past Define You

Something that happened in your childhood might have convinced you that you're terrible at something. But that’s not the truth. You don’t know your real capability until you try. I never knew I was a hardworking person—until I worked.

To all the introverts reading this: You’re not broken. You’re not weird. You’re just wired differently—and that’s okay. Keep learning, keep growing, and most importantly, keep being you.

— Yuvraj

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